While dwelling on earth, there will be numerous occasions that people will leave a mark in your life. These are just ordinary people who gave you experiences you cannot forget and if we’re lucky enough to encounter them, we have to make sure we assimilate their wisdom.
As for me, I could enumerate few people and their story that left me an impression on how they faced the trials and hellish quagmires life has to offer.
*Mr. Migs – A previous colleague. 63 year old Engineer specialized in Marine construction currently based in Dubai. He cheated on his wife with a 23 year old hot lady. He told me a lot of life experiences and all the wicked things he did and how he got away with it unscathed. I knew he’s a ninja in his previous life! He told me that I should never take them for granted once I get married and started my own family. Be loyal to your wife and marry someone you can’t live without so that you’ll never regret it for the rest of your life. As of date Mr. Migs is in Quebec, Canada and told me via e-mail that he reconciled with his wife but their relationship is never the same…
*Granny Juana – My Dad’s mom. What can I say? She served as my guiding light when I started living with my cousins for one year in 1998. I was 12 then and stubborn. I learned a lot from her the hard way. I get scolded every day for one year. She always reminds me the golden rule and we always attend Sunday mass at 5 am. I also learned a lot about raising pigs since she used to own a pig pen. God knows how much I miss her now and her scolding (LOL). She is one of the few people who shaped me for what I am today and I’m really grateful to that. God bless her soul. During her last days, she told me not to forget all the things she taught me and be a good soul always. But why do good people have to go first? I asked her. She said that it is not death as we seem it is. How do people die? By tragic accident or by gun shot, mugged perhaps? Or just like me, because of Bronchitis? People only die when they’re forgotten by the people most dear to them. I’m confident that you will never forget me. In your heart I’ll always be there and I’ll ask the Almighty to guide you so that you could get by each day until the day we reunite. Son, I love you the way I love your father. Now stop crying and hand me the rosary. It’s going to be okay…
*Geoff – A dear friend of mine who’s a year older than me. We were best friends since we were kids and the fact that our family are the first to settle in our village, we easily get along and we play in the streets everyday like there’s no tomorrow. We had each other’s back as we grew up. Yeah, like brothers. He always finds time to go to our house to copy files, anime, movies and play video games even though time is really a luxury when we were in college. What I can’t forget about him is that he always has this attitude of asking what am I doing and gives a little piece of advice about almost everything. I shared many personal problems to him and I’m always amazed how eagerly he listens to all my rant and give me options to choose from and the consequences of each. I think he could be a good counselor or psychiatrist. Things changed in summer of 2007. He took his own life. I cannot believe everything at first. He came to me 2 days ago before his death with the usual routine, anime and stuff. How the hell did he manages to be so normal but he is preoccupied about something that caused him to take his own life. During the mass and the “peace is with you” moment, he gazed upon me bowing his head. At that instant I knew something is wrong, his eyes cannot hide it. Still how could he do that? For a moment I felt betrayed and useless. Questions start to haunt me. Why he didn’t tell me about the burden he’s carrying? I thought that was his turf, making the problem less of a problem? But I guess he snapped. That tragic day is still surreal to me until now. But some things I have to let go. But how do I move on?
*Dad – Mentor, best friend and a Dad wrapped in one person. Every day I thank God for having him as my father. I respect him a lot and he teaches me life values and experiences he had and reassesses the pros and cons so that I know what to do in case I have to encounter some. My relationship with him is never a typical Dad-son thingy. We are more like best friends and I share him everything that my mind wants to cater. I just wish that he will stay strong as he is now and I hope he will spend a lot of time with his future grandson.
*Caitlyn Fairchild – I met her in summer of 2003. But not like any other people I dearly know, she’s an exception. We never met in real life. During that time there’s this online game that stormed the country called Ragnarok Online. It’s a massively multiplayer online game that many youngsters including me got addicted to. I met her while leveling up and doing some quest at the same time. A few chats and there you go, we never looked back and we became “online buddies”. There even came a point that I didn’t actually care about the progress of my character online and I just want to chat with her and see her avatar. As to my enthusiasm, I researched about her because she never told me her full name and that puts me to stalk her Friendster account and I knew she’s legit (meaning a real girl!), though her name is not Caitlyn Fairchild. We shared a lot of things. One thing I like about her is that she’s energetic online, always wants to play with me, do some grinding with our character to strengthen up. Also she is just like Geoff, I always tell her my personal problems that she almost became my online diary. Apparently all those grinding paid off as we became really strong in the community. We were like alpha and omega during that time. The dynamic duo as they say. We were like that for 3 long years. We became each other’s wall to lean on. But all good things must come to an end. When our personal lives started to hinder us and the entire hectic schedules kept us away from the online gaming community. I never heard from her after a couple of months. Until one day in 2007, I received a private message on Friendster. It’s Caitlyn, she is sorry that she didn’t say much about her life that left me wondering about. She gave me a link to her personal blog and I saw the real her. She felt she owed me an explanation that’s why she did it. As I gawked at the colorful photos of her, I realized that she’s living in an entirely different world. She was living in the United States from the moment I met her in the game up until now. She is married and she’s 23 at that time, 2 years older than me with a very cute daughter just like her. She did not say anything about this during the time we were playing because she thought I would go away. Now I know the real reason why she can’t come during our guilds meet and greet sessions. I added her to this list because she shared a lot of her life experiences and how she overcomes many obstacles. One thing she told me that I’ll never forget: “Have the courage to let some go, and sacrifice for some to stay; thus, live and make life your own way.”
These people made the difference in my life and I’ve learned a lot from them. Surely there will be more to come and probably I’ll be adding them up in this endeavor. If you have the same experience or thoughts, feel free to share it too. =)
“It’s the action, not the fruit of the action, that’s important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there’ll be any fruit. But that doesn’t mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.”
― Mahatma Gandhi